Living in a country that offers choice means you get to shape your life experience.
just because people are going to college doesn’t mean you have to. Just because people are getting corporate jobs doesn’t mean you have to. Just because people are focused on having the right clothes, house, and car doesn’t mean you have to.
The only person you have to answer to is yourself.
Wake up to that belief every morning.
Not sticking with passion my for work…..Instead I chased money and status. I lost.
Build meaning in your life, and you will be fulfilled. Stuff and status will never fill a void.
Your commitment to love, and passion will fill your cup.
I promise you this.
image all the time. I worried of what others thought of me. Did I have the right clothes, what did think of my job? Did people like me or was I annoying?
I got caught up in the rat race, and started focusing on making sure others approved of my life choices. I started wanting more expensive stuff so I could impress others and “keep up.”
I did things that I didn’t want to do just I wasn’t judged. I worried often if I was accepted by others and family.
I put a lot of pressure on myself. I worried way too much. I tried working harder to make more money which added greater stress.
At times I was so stressed I couldn’t sleep, and I would be so tired the next day. Some days I could barely get out of bed.
I wasn’t really living life for myself. It is not easy to always make the choices you want to make in life.
It took a devastating break up, to start examining my life and really looking at why I was making certain decision for my life.
We get one life as far as we know, so get busy living.
Start asking yourself am I living my life for me or someone else?
This takes effort, and commitment. Keep peeling back the layers of your soul.
I work at it daily.
When you are weighing a choice, all you have to do is ask yourself, “does this choice bring me closer to what I want?
It is that simple.
Your choices makes your future. Align your choices to your vision of the future.
Making the best possible choice in the present moment brings forth the future you want to see. Now it may not always go exactly as planned but that is part of life, and it’s great mystery. You can always adjust and make new choices.
Write this down where you can see it often and you will build it as a habit.
DOES THIS CHOICE BRING ME CLOSER TO WHAT I WANT?
Often we make situations bigger than they really are. An upcoming job interview, asking someone out, trying something new we make it a bigger deal than is really is.
We think of the worst things that can happen and allow the worst case scenario to cycle through our minds over and over.
Typically what we fear most it typically never ever happens.
Choose to believe in the best possible outcome will happen and if it doesn’t??? Think “next time” it will.
You have to train your mind to choose optimism over pessimism. It can be a life long challenge.
The earlier in life you practice this the further you will go in life.
Always hold your chin high, and treat everyone with compassion and kindness.
And never wish you were somewhere else than where you are, instead ACCEPT where you are and move forward.
It is really important not to take life too seriously. Life is short, if you are lucky you get 70 or 80 years to live. Things that seem like really big deals aren’t really that big of deal.
Slow down and enjoy the present moment, because it is all you have. There is no past or future they are just concepts. Your reality is this moment right now.
Don’t smoke.
Don’t drink 5 hour energy or any other type energy drink. It is poison.
Get fitness and meditate everyday if you can find 5 or 10 minutes for the meditation.
Never go to war. Ever think about how all the leaders of countries never fought one, why should they lead others to their death. These people pick fights and then ask others to do the fighting.
Be careful making decisions about career choices, don’t base it all on money. You will never be happy at your job if the choice is only about money.
Buy quality clothing instead of a bunch of cheap clothing. Spend some extra money on pieces that you love and are made well.
Think about your life, and whether you really do have serious problems or if you are making up very minor problems in your life as if they were serious problems. If you have shelter, money to buy food, transportation, and a few close friend your life is DAMN good. Most people now think there life is no good if their smart phone is 2 models old, and their MAC isn’t an pro or an air. Don’t make life harder than it needs to be. Life is pretty simple.
Serious problems are having cancer, no shelter, no access to clean water, having chronic disease that severely impacts your quality of life. Being unemployed for a long period of time.
Enjoy your 20’s you may never have as much care free fun and road trips. Unless of course you choose to never grow up which is a great option:)
For you or other people.
Isn’t it funny how people will tell you what you should be doing, and how you should do things in your life? It is good to get advice and insight from others, but don’t let another direct your life. You will wake one day realizing you didn’t do anything you really wanted to do.
Here is an exercise for you. Just listen to people around you everywhere you go. Do this for two days. You will hear people talking about others and what they did to hurt them or what they should be doing with their life.
This will blow your mind…trust me.
You will see most people are focused on other people as opposed to their own lives.
Be skeptical when others tell you what you should be doing. I don’t mean skeptical in a bad way, but carefully weigh what others say based on what you think.
The more you do this the more control of your life you have. If you start in your 20’s your life will be better later on.
He thought about death every morning. He knew his life was going to be short, so he knew that he had to make the most of each day.
Now I am not telling you should think about your death every morning, though it may propel you to make a different choices, but everyday counts.
Also, remember to stay in the moment. Don’t spend any time thinking about the past, and minimize day dreaming of the future.
Your present decisions will determine your future. Fully embrace the “now” it it only time you have. You can’t live in the past and you can’t live in the future.
You want a big house? You two homes? You want multiple cars? Well you can only enjoy one room at a time, one house at a time, and drive only one car at a time.
Instead of berating or hating your yourself, love and embrace yourself. You will be with yourself the rest of your life, make peace not war.
When I was in college I interned at a radio station, and a sports television station, and then after graduating I took a full time job at the TV station. I made little money, and worked tons of hours, but I had ability and I worked my way up. I had passion for sports, television and radio.
Though, I grew restless and I wanted more money and wanted to try other things. I got into sales, in an industry I don’t really like. I have been in and out of it now for 15 years because I have been accustomed to a lifestyle I don’t want to change.
Had I stayed in radio and television I would be very successful right now.
If you are in your 20’s and you are passionate about your work stick with it. You will know when to leave if you have to.
In your 20’s you have time. You don’t have to have all the fancy stuff in life, you can just focus on your career.
If you are struggling but love your work let it unfold before you give up.
You may see your friends moving up or getting promotions or making more money but don’t waver. Money will never make your happier, it can make life easier but it won’t make you markedly happier. Studies have proven this over and over again. More money does really mean more problems. The more you acquire the more stuff you have to manage and pay for.
Heck if you don’t have a career or passion for something get a job to pay the bills and save so you can travel. My greatest life experiences have come from traveling. There is so much to see and learn from the world.
Books and a classroom can never replicate getting out in the the world.
Breathe, relax, be happy you are living.
